Dating – Kristin’s Version
I had come down to Draper, Utah to complete my student teaching before graduating. I lived in an apartment with 5 other girls. We went to our new singles ward at church. I was not very excited at the idea of being in a singles ward. I did not plan on dating or meeting anyone. I was not really interested in boys and decided that I needed to focus my attention on graduating and getting a job.
My roommates and I went to our first Church meeting and none of us were very impressed with the prospects in our ward. My roommates kept complaining, during the next few weeks, that no one was friendly or interested in them. I got tired of it and invited some boys from the ward to our apartment for dinner. Steve was one that I had invited. He later told me that he thought he was the only one invited and was bummed to see so many other boys there.
Steve began to come by and visit more. We all knew he was there for one of us, but we didn’t know who. We thought he was way too serious of a person.
Despite my decision to not date, I ended up going out with some boys from the ward. It turns out Steve was very interested in dating me! He finally got me to go out with him. Our first date was one of the best dates I’ve ever been on! We spent a whole day together. Steve kept checking his PDA constantly during the date. He was so worried because the date was lasting a lot longer then he had planned. Mostly, I thought it was funny. I was impressed with how much time he had put into the date. He really put in the time and effort. AND he was not as serious as we all thought. That was when my opinion of him began to change.
The only problem was that I was dating someone else who wanted to date more seriously. I was still thinking about this relationship. I didn’t want to lead Steve on and so I kept my distance. I didn’t tell my roomies that my opinion of him had begun to change, either.
By the time I decided that this other relationship wasn’t working for me, I was getting ready to finish up my student teaching, graduate, and had this glorious vision of teaching on the west coast. I figured there was no point in trying to start something with Steve because I wasn’t going to be living there much longer.
He asked my roommate if he should give up on me. She said that he should. ( I was kind of upset that she had said that, but she no way of knowing that I did like him,) She told me that Steve was going to come and talk to me that night. Coincidentally, I had just ended the other relationship that night. I was not prepared to have such a conversation with Steve, I would have probably told him that he should move on. He came over, but he didn’t say anything about it, to my great relief.
My plans to move to the west coast and get a job right away, as I had envisioned, were thwarted by the process of getting my teaching license, so I ended up getting a temporary job as an aide in Provo, Utah. Steve helped me move my things down there. We exchanged phone numbers, though I didn’t think anything would come of it. Over Christmas, he e-mailed me and said that I should call him up when I got back to Provo. When I arrived at my apartment and gotten settled I didn’t know anyone, so I called him. He drove straight down. And he drove the 30 min. to see me every day there after! I was impressed with his great effort to spend so much time with me. It was then that I began to understand what a wonderful guy he really was! We spent as much time together as possible. And the rest, as they say…. is history!